We are fortunate to be in a service industry that brings us many life defining moments – for our patients and ourselves. One such moment was the day De’Jai came into our office for her prosthetic evaluation. She was young, only 22, but her eyes were empty of the joy and energy that youth should inherently possess.
Her world had unexpectedly turned upside down when she suffered a blood clot in her right leg. The surgeon attempted to save her limb with a bypass procedure but ultimately had to amputate to save De’Jai’s life. Two months post-amputation, De’Jai was fearful and constantly questioning “Why me?” Although she was surrounded by supportive family and friends, none of them knew the pain and anxiety that plagued her night and day.
We all tried to be encouraging during her casting and fitting appointments but she avoided eye contact and limited conversation to the shortest answers possible. It wasn’t until her delivery day that she began to allow herself to believe she would walk again. She was still focused on what she had lost and not on what she could achieve with the aid of her prosthesis.
De’Jai states that it was so hard to accept not having a leg. She was apprehensive about how her leg would look – that it would be obvious she was wearing a prosthesis. She had difficulty trusting her prosthesis for balance and that it wouldn’t come off and cause her to fall. We all took small steps with her, finding ways for her to trust us and her prosthesis enough to help her succeed.
A little over two years later and De’Jai strides into our office with her head held high and a smile that warms all that meet her. She is confident, not only in her ability to ambulate, but in her future. De’Jai has made new goals and is making great strides in achieving them. She is working toward a degree in early childhood development with dreams of owning her own daycare. De’Jai is also eager to learn to drive.
When asked what advice she would give another young person struggling to overcome physical and emotional obstacles, she states, “Don’t give up!” And that advice is applicable to all of us, especially during this pandemic.
Thank you, De’Jai, for being a true inspiration and sharing your story and light with us!
De’Jai and her Mom smiling!